There are 53 articles in this category; they appear on 6 pages.
Contracting With Your Abuser
How can one negotiate with an abuser without incurring his wrath? What is the meaning of contracts?
The Malignant Optimism of the Abused
Why do some victims of domestic violence choose to stay? Why don't they leave? In this article, author Sam Vaknin explores some victims' tendency to read meaning and patterns into every random occurrence, utterance, or slip and to have hope that their relationship will improve. Sam also examines how victims' optimism is viewed by their abusers.
Intimacy and Abuse
Most reported offenses are between intimate partners and between parents and children. Intimacy is often perceived to include a license to abuse, even though, obviously, it does not. In this article, Sam Vaknin explores the confabulated lives of abusers as well as their thwarted reality that equates abuse as emotionally numbed survival and freedom from lifelong bondage.
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How to Cope With Abuse in the Workplace
To a narcissistic employer, the members of his staff accumulate secondary sources of narcissistic supply and regulate it during dry spells. In this article, author Sam Vaknin explains the role of employees working for a narcissistic employer: to to adulate, adore, admire, agree, provide attention and approval, and, generally, serve as an audience to him.
Narcissism, Substance Abuse, and Reckless Behaviours
Pathological narcissism is an addiction to narcissistic supply, the narcissist's drug of choice. It is, therefore, not surprising that other addictive and reckless behaviours piggyback on this primary dependence. In this article, author Sam Vaknin explores narcissism and workaholism, alcoholism, drug abuse, pathological gambling, compulsory shopping, and reckless driving.
The Cult of the Narcissist
The narcissist is the guru at the center of a cult. Like other gurus, he demands complete obedience from his flock: his spouse, his offspring, other family members, friends, and colleagues. In this article, author Sam Vaknin explores the cult of the narcissistic and explains the dangers of this abusive dynamic.
The Cyber Narcissist
In this article, author Sam Vaknin warns of the dangers of Internet predators and abusers and speaks of the Internet as an extension of real-life Narcissistic Pathological Space without its risks, injuries, and disappointments.
Abuse By Proxy
If all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbours, the media, teachers — in short, third parties — to do his bidding. He uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate and otherwise manipulate his target. In this article, author Sam Vaknin discusses the types of abuse by proxies and the three types of accomplices an abuser may use.
In this article, author Sam Vaknin discusses ambient abuse — the stealth, subtle, underground currents of maltreatment that sometimes go unnoticed even by the victims themselves, until it is too late. It is the fostering, propagation, and enhancement of an atmosphere of fear, intimidation, instability, unpredictability and irritation. Learn about the five categories of ambient abuse.