Miscarriage and loss
Miscarriage: learning to cope
When a pregnancy thought to be normal suddenly ends, the results
for the expectant parents are utterly devastating and pregnancy
after miscarriage is surrounded with a great deal of anxiety and
If you are thinking about becoming pregnant after miscarriage,
here are simple tips that will help.
Pregnancy after miscarriage
A miscarriage can be an extremely frightening and sad experience
and for many considering pregnancy after miscarriage, there is
a much uncertainty as to whether a subsequent pregnancy will end
in the same way.
What causes miscarriage?
The causes of miscarriage are still somewhat unclear particularly
when miscarriage occurs in the first trimester, as most miscarriages
As many as 50% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, often before
a woman even realizes she is pregnant. Most of these miscarriages
occur when a pregnancy is not developing normally, and usually
there is nothing that can be done to prevent it.
A small percentage of women will experience repeat miscarriages,
and in some cases there can be an underlying problem that may
require treatment. Most women go on to have a successful pregnancy
How long should I wait after miscarriage before trying to become
Pregnancy after miscarriage can be an emotional rollercoaster.
A woman may experience sadness, numbness, guilt, depression,
and anger. You and your partner may deal with grief in different
ways, creating tension between you both at a time when you need
each other most.
It is important to grieve. Talking through your emotions with
someone trained to help, such as a bereavement counselor or someone
experienced in dealing with pregnancy loss, would be enormously
beneficial, prior to considering pregnancy after miscarriage.
Deciding when to try again is a decision only you as a couple
can make. There may be a temptation to be pregnant again immediately,
in an attempt to deal with the heartache of your loss, but you
should wait until you are physically and emotionally ready.
The changes that pregnancy itself causes, can put a woman and
her body under additional physical and emotional stress, therefore
pregnancy after miscarriage is going to be even more so.
If a woman's body isn't ready to support a pregnancy by the time
that she conceives again, she faces an increased risk of experiencing
a repeat miscarriage.
There is no perfect time, but many health professionals suggest
a period of at least a few months to strengthen the chance of
a healthy pregnancy.
How might we expect to feel during the next pregnancy?
Pregnancy after miscarriage may not be the joyful experience
you may have imagined and you may find it difficult connecting
to your unborn baby for fear of further loss.
It is important to remember that however you may feel now, you
will want to look back, remember and cherish the milestones, whatever
Pregnancy after miscarriage: remaining positive
- Discuss any fears or concerns you have with your healthcare
- Insist that your pregnancy be monitored carefully.
- As with your previous pregnancy, everybody will suddenly
become an expert! The easiest way to handle their suggestions
is to listen, and then do whatever you, your partner, and medical
team feel is best.
- You may want to avoid early preparation for the baby's arrival,
but try to keep things in perspective.
Pregnancy after miscarriage: looking after yourself
- Form a good support network.
- Try to ensure your pregnancy is as stress free as possible.
- Set aside some time every day to practise relaxation.
- Visualize what you want and how you would like your pregnancy
Use a child preparation CD
There are a number of good childbirth preparation CDs available
that can help you with this. These CDs can focus you mind to become
less stressed and more relaxed so you can face your pregnancy
in the best state of mind.
Becoming pregnant after miscarriage won't replace the lost pregnancy
but may help you by refocusing your attention.
Remember that maternal emotions can affect your unborn baby and
so it will be more beneficial for you and your baby if you try
to adopt a positive outlook.
For more free information on how to cope with pregnacy
and miscarriage as well as advice on all aspects of pregnancy
and a varitey of birth CDs, that will help you relax and achieve
a positive state of mind visit www.childbirthnaturally.com.