Miscarriage and loss
Lessons from miscarriage so you can have a baby
The miscarriage question How can I avoid having miscarriage
again? has been asked of me many times.
One very important step is to explore the lesson that miscarriage
has for you. In itself, this process can be very empowering because
if moves you away from feeling like a victim of miscarriage…
into a place that opens up to the bigger picture.
The lesson of miscarriage
This approach certainly helped me after miscarriage.
I experienced miscarriages because there was a part of me that
was not quite ready yet for my baby. Intellectually I was ready.
Physically too. But many of the patterns and experiences in my
life did not reflect how I really wanted to be in the world…
what I really wanted for my baby.
My core yearned for something more. In my case, one of the issues
that miscarriage made absolutely clear to me was the need to let
go of some of the relationships in my life and create sacred space
for my new family. Up to then I was running the programme that
I was responsible for everybody else and that I couldn't say no
to certain others.
Consequently, a lot of my energy (emotional energy) was literally
tied up. I was caught up in the knot of having to cater to others
and, in hindsight, did not have the energy or space I needed be
the kind of mother that I want to be.
Something had to give.
Learning from your miscarriage
As a result of miscarriage and subsequently exploring the message
behind it, I have now created sacred space, can say no,
and honor my own needs.
My body had been hinting for years but I could not take action.
I was too caught up in shoulds. Miscarriage was my body and soul
screaming Stop!. I finally listened. Perhaps this resonates
with you. Maybe some part of you can hear the deeper message of
You might find it useful to really allow yourself to go within
and ask what the learning is for you in miscarriage. Is there
something that needs to change in your life to experience success
in your fertility, enjoy full-term pregnancy and safe, gentle
Do you need to say no to something you don't want or
yes to something delicious now so that success in pregnancy
will be the natural next step for you.
About the Author:
Deirdre Morris, BA, MSc, MEd worked as a psychologist for almost
a decade and has always been facinated by the power of the mind
and spirituality. This passion brought her to India and Nepal
for a year where where she explored meditation and other healing
methods. A lifelong student, Deirdre has completed her Spiritual
Life Coach Training and continues her studies in Family Constellations
Therapy. Through her blog and mentoring progammes, Deirdre transforms
conception, birth and pregnancy into magical beginnings for
baby and magical beginnings for you. Deirdre coaches and runs
teleclasses for pregnant parents, for those preparing for pregnancy,
for parents who have experienced miscarriage and for couples
experiencing fertility challenges. For more information, visit