Infertility

Female infertility

By Milos Pesic

Female infertility is a difficult issue for any woman who faces it. Your friends and family members all seem to try to help you out, but they just make things worse. You know what to do, it just doesn’t seem to be working for you and your partner. Female infertility puts a big kink in the whole birds and the bees story. It sounds so easy, but for you that has not been your experience.

In infertile couples that undergo testing to determine the cause of their infertility, about 30% of the couples will discover that the problem is female infertility. Another 30% will discover that the problem is male infertility. The other 40% will have fertility problems stemming from the combination of their bodies’ functioning, or from unknown causes. Unknown causes may be even more frustrating that discovering female or male infertility, because the doctor says that there is nothing that looks out of the ordinary.

Female infertility can be very psychologically taxing. Often there are issues of guilt, anger, and frustration that are difficult for a couple to work through by themselves. Try to discuss openly your feelings, hopes, fears, and dreams with your partner. It helps to talk about important things at a low-stress time when you can both focus on each other. If you feel that you are beginning to have communication problems between you or other members of your family, try to find a counselor that you can talk to. Your employer may have an Employee Assistance Hotline you can call, or maybe you can find someone in the phone book or through your place of worship. It is important to address your feelings and frustrations so that you can overcome the obstacles that have been presented to you.

You and your partner may decide to opt for treatments for female infertility if you would like to bear a biological child. There are many options available these days. Consult with your primary doctor and then a fertility specialist to see which options are the most appropriate in your case. Many of the causes of female infertility are treatable. There is hope! You and your partner may also consider other options, such as adoption or foster care of children.

Weigh your options carefully to decide on the option that is best for you as a couple. A counselor is able to help you to make plans for the next step in dealing with your female infertility, whether those plans be to wait and see what happens, to pursue female infertility treatments, to adopt a child, or something else. It is up to you to decide what is best; take your time and take care of yourself during the process.